Dear Chloé,
What do you do when you are so busy trying to live the right way, where you are constantly looking so deeply inward that it begins to make it hard to grow outward. It’s like I so deeply analyze everything I do because I want to be living in the best way, but that analysis stops the living from happening. It takes away the joy.
Sincerely M.C.
Dear M.C,
Just yesterday I was in therapy and we were talking about the desire to be good. I have been hurt deeply by someone I cared about and for a while I have been afraid that they hurt me so badly the only thing I could do in return was hurt others. I was fixated on the idea that getting into a relationship would only result in more wounded people.
When we think of morality or the binary of good vs bad, right vs wrong, there are situations where we can speak definitively. Small scale scenarios so to speak where someone has done something wrong while the opposite action would be right. Yet, when we try to apply this absoluteness to our everyday grand lives it limits our experiences in ways we may not realize. It leaves no area for grey, where so often, we exist and thrive. So what does it mean, really, to live the right way?
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